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My father's father, Bernard, is now my sole remaining grandparent, grandpa Beverley having died this past week. I was somewhat surprised - Bev was a tough, formidable old man, and when my family called I thought at first they were reporting that my other, older and frailer grandfather was dead. My mom is, I think, a bit down - as she said on the phone tonight, "I'm an orphan now."
As for myself, it would be hypocritical for me to make a fuss - I was never close to him, and hadn't seen him in about six years; I will be far more saddened when his sister Janette dies - I have at various times in my life lived in her house, as have most members of my family; she has impressed my brother with her record collection, attended every art show I've ever been involved in, and to the best of my knowledge is completely impossible to faze.
At the moment Aunt J. has the job of writing Beverley's obit, which according to Mom includes trying to find out if he and Betty, his domestic partner of the last forty years, ever got married (it seems odd that we wouldn't know this, but my family don't ask direct questions). He didn't want a funeral, and Betty's family are handling the cremation. No one's quite sure what to do with the ashes, but if he didn't specify, I think he's waived his right to complain; may he rest in peace, however.
As for myself, it would be hypocritical for me to make a fuss - I was never close to him, and hadn't seen him in about six years; I will be far more saddened when his sister Janette dies - I have at various times in my life lived in her house, as have most members of my family; she has impressed my brother with her record collection, attended every art show I've ever been involved in, and to the best of my knowledge is completely impossible to faze.
At the moment Aunt J. has the job of writing Beverley's obit, which according to Mom includes trying to find out if he and Betty, his domestic partner of the last forty years, ever got married (it seems odd that we wouldn't know this, but my family don't ask direct questions). He didn't want a funeral, and Betty's family are handling the cremation. No one's quite sure what to do with the ashes, but if he didn't specify, I think he's waived his right to complain; may he rest in peace, however.
