moon_custafer: (Default)
 zzszzzzzAz (Nana stepped on the keyboard.)

I seem to recall that in the past, I could see my Facebook friends' conversations, but couldn't join in unless I was friended to the OP. Has that changed? Lately I've seen some friends have to ask who the FOAF was who'd showed up on their wall and begun arguing vehemently with them.

Today I had to unfriend a high school acquaintance for this reason; he reacted by sending a PM saying he'd only friended me because he missed our late mutual friend Angus, and that I was "poisoning" his memories. Pretty much confirmed that cutting ties was a good idea, but it hurt that he dragged Angus into it.

Now I'm going to be wondering how safe it is to comment on anyone's FB post, if I'm forming a link to let anyone on my flist join in. I may have to go through it and pare down.

ETA -- reread his comments and it looks as though my friend's account might be set to allows FOFs to comment, but I'd still better think about who I might be bringing along when I comment.

Date: 2017-07-13 12:36 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] sovay
sovay: (Claude Rains)
zzszzzzzAz (Nana stepped on the keyboard.)

Hello, cat.

he reacted by sending a PM saying he'd only friended me because he missed our late mutual friend Angus, and that I was "poisoning" his memories.

So what I take from that statement is that he's having trouble with grief, but it is still the sort of thing I can't imagine saying to anybody, because can't you hear how you sound? I'm sorry that happened.

Date: 2017-07-13 02:12 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] sovay
sovay: (PJ Harvey: crow)
but I really haven't the patience to deal with him.

I don't think you're under any obligation to.

Date: 2017-07-13 05:28 pm (UTC)From: [personal profile] stardreamer
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Whether or not you can comment on the post of someone you're not friends with depends on the settings of their page. Since my FB default is friends-only (meaning that only friends can see what I post), I don't have to worry about it. If a post is set to be public or friends-of-friends, then you can comment on it whether you're friends with the poster themselves or not.

Re the person you had to unfriend, you definitely made the right choice -- and you might also want to consider blocking him. Nobody owes anybody else a space or an audience on social media.

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